Unhindered
For the last ten years, the pursuit of solving the insecurity problem has become my obsession. It has entirely captured my attention and all ambition I have for my life is directed to this end.
Unhindered
The Seven Essential Practices For Overcoming Insecurity
Contributed by Jaemin Frazer
For the last ten years, the pursuit of solving the insecurity problem has become my obsession. It has entirely captured my attention and all ambition I have for my life is directed to this end.
This subject has occupied every spare corner of my brain. There are very few nights where the desire to understand and explain how insecurity can be overcome does not work itself into the fabric of my dreams.
This book represents the very best I have to offer on this subject. I have poured my heart and soul into creating a framework that is intelligent, effective and complete.
To set up the conversation about such a difficult and vulnerable issue, there are three vital distinctions to be made about the nature of insecurity:
- It is natural
- It is useful
- It is removable
In understanding this triad, you will find the access point into the way of solving insecurity for good.
It is natural
It is unavoidable. Even perfect parents could not protect their children from developing irrational fears and self-limiting beliefs. Doubt and fear show us where the edges are.
They let us know we are alive and that we deserve to be safe.
It is universal. Every human being who has ever lived, and is yet to live, will face this same longing for love, belonging and significance in the process of forming as an adult.
Understanding the universal nature of the fear of not being good enough allows each of us to see our own struggle with insecurity as somehow special or unique. It’s not that some people face the insecurity problem while others are spared, everyone develops this fear.
If insecurity is the constant, the variable is what people do with it.
It is useful
There are seasons of life where having something to prove, driven by fear is incredibly motivating.
The issue is that while it starts out as natural and useful, there is definitely an expiry date on both the usefulness and naturality of this fear. In fact, the longer insecurity remains intact and unaddressed inside you, the more toxic and maddening it becomes. We are supposed to remove it.
The gift within our insecurity is the resistance it provides. Growth never exists in a vacuum or perfect condition. It requires some kind of oppositional force. We reach full stature as we reach for the stars while simultaneously being pulled back to earth. If there was no gravity, we would float off into space.
From the deep dark recesses of our mind a voice of fear taunts us. The terrifying question of what would be discovered if we were to be laid bare, can either paralyse or energise us.
What if it’s true? What if you are no good? What if you are unworthy? What if you are not enough?
Sure, but what if it’s not true? What if there is no substance to this fear? What if I am inherently good? What if I am deeply worthy? What if I AM enough?
The voice of insecurity gives us the opportunity to find out which one is true. The most meaningful victories in life always come in the face of the biggest challenges.
Insecurity proves to be a worthy adversary to test yourself against. Like a loving mentor, it desperately wants you to win while making it as difficult as possible for you to do so. This makes the victory real.
Nothing of value comes without a cost. To have the opportunity to genuinely overcome insecurity will cost you everything. If you lose, you die. If you win, you get the Holy Grail and are able to drink from the well of everlasting life.
It is removable
I have no confidence in the common thinking about what one is to do with self-doubt, fear and limiting beliefs. The advice of podcasters, authors and athletes on dealing with fear frequently leaves me puzzled, while conversations about insecurity with practitioners in the personal development space rarely inspire me.
The general consensus seems to be to struggle against insecurity the best you can. Mask, medicate and manage the monster. It is my heartfelt conviction that we can and must do better than that. The natural cycle of insecurity is for it to be felt, faced, deconstructed, removed and replaced.
This book is devoted to the process of solving the insecurity problem.
Jaemin
“What if I AM
enough?”
You may be insecure about being insecure, yet if you don’t find a way to face this fear and overcome your insecurity, it will ruin your life.
Rather than masking, medicating or managing your insecurities, this book provides the proven framework for solving the insecurity problem instead. The 7 Essential Practices shows you exactly how to overcome insecurity for good so that you can show up at your best where it matters most, unhindered by self-doubt, fear and limiting beliefs.
This is the definitive guide to solving the insecurity problem in your life.